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Know that abuse is wrong, and it is not your fault. Many survivors of abuse experience feelings of guilt and blame themselves. Remember, abuse is always wrong, and it is not your fault. You must leave to take care of your safety and your children’s safety. You are not alone. Leaving an abusive relationship may feel overwhelming. You may be feeling uncertain, frightened, and torn. Remember, there are people and agencies ready to help. You may have family members and friends who will help you, and either way, there are agencies and shelters who will take care of you. Create a safety plan. Locate and prepare safe areas of the house. Inform trusted individuals with a code word to indicate that you are in trouble so they should call the police. Prepare what you need and be ready to leave at a moment’s notice. Practice escaping quickly and safely. In the meantime, try to avoid your abuser’s triggers. Reach out to resources today. Remember that there are many resources available for abused individuals, including crisis hotlines, counseling, shelters, legal services, childcare, and job training. By reaching out to these places today, you can gain greater confidence in leaving the abusive relationship when you’re ready. Remind yourself that you are doing the right thing. Leaving an abusive relationship is the right thing to do. It will allow you and your family to have a better life. Envision the future of your happy family as motivation. Repeat to yourself: I am doing the right thing.