I think it's helpful to understand where you've been. Consider what kind of challenges you may have navigated over the course of the past year. From there, decide where you want to focus your energy in the new year.
Slowly distance yourself from her, not making it obvious. Change all your passwords as soon as you can, and report her to the authorities for using the spyware.
Everyone can find the good inside themselves and cultivate that positivity! If you're finding it hard to do that, consider hiring a life coach or reaching out to a trusted...
If you have a water bucket and/or a pickax, I would dig a staircase if you can. You could also use the water method by placing water above you, swimming...
They have machines at home improvement stores that you can rent that basically lift the drywall into place and press it flush against the ceiling so you can screw it...