A low libido (sex drive) is quite common during breast feeding, due to die hormonal changes at this time, as nature' s way of preventing pregnancies too close together. The mother also tends to be preoccupied by the baby' s welfare, and is under a constant low-grade stress from the demands the baby puts on her. Sleep, calm rest, and privacy also tend to be rare commodities in the first six months (or more) after a birth. Any form of stress will reduce the libido of both males and females, and many couples are slow to restart sex after the birth of a child, particularly the first one. Sometimes the hormones in the contraceptive pill may also reduce libido, but most women finds that the pill enhances their sex drive rather than reduces it. The modern, low-dose pills are particularly unlikely to reduce libido. The best way to kick-start your sex life would be to pass the care of the baby over to a grandparent or friend, while you and your frustrated husband head off alone for a relaxing long weekend away from home.