I'm generally not a fan of "cutting people out," and you really shouldn't do this unless their behavior has been especially dangerous or problematic. If you need to do this...
Depends on the wax, paraffin melts at about 37°C (99°F). Soy ranges depending on the blend, anywhere from (49-82)°C or (120-180) °F. There are many different types and blends, so...