How to Tell Someone You Don't Want to Be Their Friend Without Hurting Their Feelings

How to Tell Someone You Don't Want to Be Their Friend Without Hurting Their Feelings

Breaking off a friendship can be difficult. Though it may be necessary to tell someone who persists in pursuing a friendship with you that you don’t want to be their friend, it's important to do so in a way that minimizes hurt feelings.

Step 1: Be Honest

Above all else, be honest when discussing your friendship with the person. Explain that though you appreciate their efforts, you don't think it would be a good idea for you to be friends.

Step 2: Give a Reason

Explain to the person why you don't want to be friends. If applicable, let them know you feel that it would be hard to make enough time together or that you don't have much in common.

Step 3: Express Your Gratitude

Make sure to thank the person for their interest and effort. Even if you don't want to be their friend, letting them know that you appreciate their interest can make the conversation easier.

Step 4: Offer Alternatives

• Suggest activities in which you can interact, such as playing sports together, or go see a movie without any expectations of friendship.
• Let the person know you might be willing to continue casual conversations, as an acquaintance, now and then.
• Propose to remain in touch, such as exchanging emails or a quick phone call to check in with one another.

Step 5: Stay Positive

Keep the conversation positive. Whether or not both of you remain friends, look to the future with optimism and a renewed potential for friendship.