You can use Find my iPhone even if location services are turned off, but not to locate it on a map. If location services are off, you can use Find my iPhone only to audibly ping your device (even if mute is enabled), lock it or erase.
It may be that the battery on your controller has failed. Many repair shops can replace the battery for you. Or, if you are familiar with electronic repair, you can...
You can but don't wait too long or you'll lose your number. Maybe three days maximum, then you may have to start a new account and get a different number...
No, when turning off your location on an iPhone, your friends do not receive a notification. However, it will show the last known location to them if they decide to...